If you have a full-time job, you spend a large portion of your waking hours with your co-workers. The way you are treated in the workplace is important to your quality of life. The most important factor in how others treat you is the amount of respect they have for you.
Although some people are disrespectful by nature, you usually have control over the level of respect you receive in the workplace.
Be human. You and your co-workers are a team working for the benefit of one business. Be down to earth and easy to approach. Don’t act like you are better than others.
That is the fastest way to get people to dislike and disrespect you. In this case, your co-workers will mock you behind your back and probably seek to undermine you every chance they get.
If you make a mistake, own up to it. If you don’t know the answer to a question, don’t pretend to know. Ask your co-workers for advice and assistance when you need it. Offer assistance to others when they need it.
Don’t take credit for work you didn’t do on your own. Give credit where credit is due. If you do get recognized for a job well done, credit the team for their part.
This is what teamwork is all about. Your co-workers will appreciate your humanity.
Your co-workers spend enough time around you to know if you are phony. This doesn’t mean you have to tell people about your personal life or wear your emotions on your sleeve. Just yourself. Be sincere.
Be honest about your opinions. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not, and don’t lie about your work, knowledge or previous experience.
If you lead an immoral lifestyle outside of work, your co-workers are bound to find out sooner or later.
If you are an alcoholic or drug user, or if you are promiscuous, they will look at you differently. Some people cannot respect people that live these lifestyles. This is made worse by coming to work and bragging about it.
If you do not exercise self-control and discipline in your personal, you probably will not succeed in your professional life, because success requires the very traits you lack.
Avoid romantic relationships and encounters with other employees. Word gets around, no matter how hard you try to hide it.
Be a person who shows kindness and compassion to those around you. If you see a co-worker struggling, offer a helping hand. Befriend the new person. Take up a collection and send flowers and cards to co-workers who become hospitalized or experience a loss.
Offer a helping hand whenever you get a chance. Be involved in charity projects or even start charity projects during the holidays. Offer a listening ear to co-workers in crisis. Occasionally buy lunch for someone.
The sky is the limit when it comes to showing kindness, but an act of kindness can make a lasting impact that is never forgotten. People can’t help but admire and respect a truly kind person.
Kindness should never be confused with being a doormat. The fact that you are kind does not mean you allow people to walk all over you.
You have a right to establish boundaries and enforce them in an appropriate way. If you believe you are being harassed or treated unfairly, stand up for yourself.
If you have a grievance against someone, go through the proper channels to have it addressed. If someone offends you, talk to that person about it directly.
Don’t let it build up, and don’t talk to other co-workers about it. If people are taking too much away from your work by trying to chat all the time, find a nice way to tell them: “I wish I could talk right now, but I have too much work to do,”
If you handle situations assertively, people will know where they stand with you. They will learn your boundaries and respect them. If you do not stand up for yourself, you risk becoming an easy target, and people will not respect you, no matter how nice you are.
No one likes or respects a blabbermouth. If someone confides in you, keep the information to yourself. If you accidentally come across privileged information, keep it to yourself. If your job requires you to deal with the public, don’t talk negatively about the customers.
Don’t divulge personal information you learn about people in the course of your job. Provide information on a need-to-know basis only.
Avoid gossip in all forms. Don’t listen to it, and don’t repeat it. If you overhear gossip, set yourself apart by politely asking people not to discuss it in your hearing. Avoid social interactions with those co-workers who are known as gossips. Make it known that you are not interested in gossip.
Don’t make your personal life a public spectacle at work.
If you are going through something at home, leave it at home. While it may be fine to talk to co-workers about what you did on vacation or what your child accomplished in football, the details of your divorce or sex life are better left outside the workplace.
Conduct yourself as a professional while at work. Guard against childish behavior, profanity, and off-color joking.
Control your anger and other emotions while at work. Conduct yourself in a calm, rational manner, always taking care to maintain a reputation as a true professional. Keep your mood constant. Commit yourself to remaining cheerful, productive and consistent at work.
Don’t allow your co-workers to see you react or behave in an unprofessional manner.
Give your best effort to every task put before you throughout the work day. If you consistently produce quality results on the job, you will build up your reputation with both your supervisors and co-workers. When people know you do quality work, they appreciate your presence as a contributing part of the company.
If you are promoted, your co-workers will understand that you earned it by the quality of your work, and not just because of politics.
If your work is shoddy and others have to pick up the slack for you, your co-workers will wonder why you still have your job.
Over time, they will resent the fact that they have to do their work plus fix your mistakes as well. They will talk about you behind your back and possibly see you as a joke. No one will take you seriously.
Keep your work area neat and organized. Keep your files up to date. When someone walks into your office or workstation, what do they see? Do they see papers strewn all over the place while they watch you hunt desperately for a fax or a file?
Or do they walk in to a calm, tidy office where you promptly locate the documents they need? The more organized you are, the more your co-workers will admire and respect you.
Being disorganized does more than take away from the physical appearance of your office.
It reduces your efficiency and productivity. Your co-workers may not feel confident that they can count on you. Getting organized and staying organized requires a small investment of time, but it will gain you the respect of your peers while saving you far more time and trouble in the long run.
If you want to gain respect, you must show respect. Learn your co-workers’ boundaries and respect them. Speak to your co-workers respectfully and professionally, and use proper telephone etiquette. If you need to speak with a co-worker for very long, confirm that he/she has time.
If you are new on the job, adapt your routines and methods to your new workplace culture.
Avoid arguing with co-workers, and respect differing opinions. Avoid drawing attention to mistakes and failures. If you must bring one of these up, do so as tactfully and privately as possible.
Be considerate of your co-workers’ feelings and cultivate mutual respect between yourself and your colleagues.